How to Know When to Let Go

When you meet your Twin, or any event that causes upheaval in your life, many times a big part of the integration process is letting go. You have to let go of something in order to move on. We are in constant movement and life is supposed to be in motion. As humans, we have a hard time letting go and seeing change, as it affects our stability. Being able to flow with change is a highly desirable skill. It allows us to be adaptable and flexible, and stay open and curious. It allows us to stay engaged with life. We are in the position of stewardship in our life as we see letting go as an opportunity to invite in something new. We do not hold on because we know we do not need to. There is plenty, and life provides always. If we stay open and curious, light on our feet, we keep the energy going and do not harden towards what we lost. We honor it, value it, and let it go.

There is an organic timing to the letting go process. It comes naturally if we allow ourselves to go through the whole process. There is a natural conclusion if are given the chance to grieve. In our modern, busy world, we do not always get the chance to grieve. In fact, our society is quite grief-phobic. Flowing through the natural parts of our grieving is hardly ever tolerated. We suppress, and as a result we miss the chance to let go. We hold in our grief and our emotions and thereby hold on to what is asking to be released. Maybe forever, maybe for now. And we give it the space to be free. It is so important to know when to let go. It is one of the most valuable lessons in life. There is a slim time frame when letting go is the right thing to do. It is a sweet spot. Almost like a ripening. And you feel it. Deep in your bones. There is this gut feeling, and it's telling you to move on. Listen to this feeling. It is here to tell you something. One of the most dangerous things to do is to wait too long, get stuck in a difficult situation that isn't serving you anymore. However, if you miss the spot, out of fear or thinking you could change the inevitable, an unwillingness to see the truth, you can get stuck in something that has run its course. And then it's like trying to resuscitate something that's dead. It's dead. But you keep running away from it, trying to fix reality. Justifying that reality as it is is unacceptable. You keep yourself trapped with that. It might be hard, but it will serve you in the long run if you face the truth. You liberate yourself from something that wasn't meant for you. And you turn towards life. You let life flow through you. And you don't resist. You face a life-affirming choice. You allow life to move through whatever it needs to move through. And you come out on the other side. With any given situation, there are two choices. Either you see the truth in it, and allow life and yourself to move along, or you decide to stagante, turn to the old and refuse to take this as the opportunity that it is. It is that simple. We make it more complicated than it has to be. There is always an 'after', after the letting go. Life continues to flow. It is never the end.