How Do You Speak About Yourself

Language is the most powerful tool we have more manifestation. The way you speak about yourself is how you condition your own subconscious mind and that of others to treat you. You define your value by expressing that which you believe yourself to be worth. And this could be a lifetime of negative comments and mistreatment that has been stored as truth. Most of us don't live by our own design. We live by the experiences and expectations of others. We repeat what has been said to us, out of a deep conditioning of needing to belong to the tribe. We have done this for centuries. As a collective and as humans. Not everyone, some peoples live freely. And have lived freely for centuries. But our modern, Western societies have been built on collective agreements, the tribe and its shadow side that comes with it, and old bargains that have been limiting, disenfranchising, and disowning. The collective spell that has been cast upon us is dependant on our reciting it, on keeping it alive. You might have noticed that this is a road with no end. It's possible to spiral. And you think worse about yourself, and worse. Because there is no light at the end of the tunnel with a false storyline, an illusion, that keeps you stuck in fear and self-defeat. This is what they want. To keep you powerless.

Unfortunately, it is hard to break free from these patterns when you are surrounded by people who have a limited mind, who have been so deeply conditioned that they don't see anything else. It is like the bird in a cage and the cage door being open, but the bird won't fly out. See how the truth can set you free. What truth have you been burrying deep down inside? What mental construct keeps you chained to the cage although you're free? Do you remember a time when you were carefree and at peace with yourself? This is your natural state, and your birthright. The way you talk about yourself is deeply conditioned by the expectation of other people. The more you expose yourself to their opinion, without discernment, the more you will be open to their conditioning. And imagine: Do you want to run your life by the unconscious patterns of other people that they are not even aware of? You might be running your life by someone's grandma's story that they have not released. Do you see what I mean? You are not in your power and you are not aware when you base your self-concept and your opinion about yourself on the opinion of others.

Especially, if they are in a negative state of mind. Especially, if they have unresolved conflict. Especially, if they are not in their power. Feel it in your body. How do you feel when you speak your truth around someone? What phrases and sentences do you pick up when you spend time around certain people? This can also be online, when you consume someone's content. We are social beings, we adapt to the people around us and our environment. So make sure you are in an environment that wants to see you grow, nurture you, and protect you. You are like a flower that needs water, air, sun, and soil to bloom and be healthy. What emotions do you surround yourself with (water)? What kind of ideas and intellectual stimulation are present in your environment (air)? What grounded practice and rooted connections do you have in your life (earth)? And what healthy structure and protection do you have in your life to expand into joy (sun)? You need all of this to be well-nourished.

When we are around empowering, reflective and supportive people, it rubs off on us. We see that there are people who do want the best for us. Who are not threatened by our success and our light. They know that when you rise, we all rise. Healthy and selfless people whose ego is not threatened by your power. People who are aligned with service. Serving their own well-being and that of others. Who know there is enough for all of us to go around. People with an abundance mindset. People who want to live in peace, as a shared community with our human family. So often, we speak of ourselves poorly to gain approval. Because someone who doesn't like themselves, doesn't like you shining. We can sense the judgement and the punishment, even if on a subtle level, which dims our light and makes us retreat into a smaller version of ourselves. Because it is too dangerous to come out and shine, when you are around the wrong people.

Assess: Who makes you feel small? And who makes you feel expanded? Who supports you and your ideas, and who wants to see you fail? This might not be so easy to spot at first. Many people have unconscious beliefs and patterns that they are unaware of. Most of us, actually. Which means, we might say one thing and we mean another. We might cheer someone on, because we genuinely want to support them, and an unconscious part of us who might have been hurt and betrayed doesn't want to see that person succeed. So we might subconsciously sabotage that person and not be aligned with their success. Not really want to see them succeed. Because there is some unresolved, subconscious part that is fearful that there won't be enough for them, jealous about missed opportunities, or shame about having been treated the same way.

We perpetuate what we have not resolved, even if on a very deep, unconscious level. We project our wounds onto each other. This can reach well into past lives, ancestral trauma, and collective patterns. And we accumulate more injuries and hurts as we move along. Because this is life. So we have a lot of healing work to do. And we know that. Those of us who are aware of it, do their part, they do their share, and they show up. For the collective and humanity as a whole. Because we know - We are not free until everyone is free.